My son, the garbage man

Did you know Owen knows his days of the week? At 18 months old? He does. This is how I know: Every Tuesday night he starts going “Kruck? Kruck? Kruck?”

Last Tuesday evening, he started with the Kruck and finished by dragging the kitchen garbage bin all the way to the back deck — he would have hauled it off down the deck stairs if I’d have let him. (He’d seen his father drag the garbage cans down that route and was obviously intent on pitching in and earning his keep, the little duck.)

And every Wednesday morning, the “kruck-kruck-kruck” reaches fever pitch, starting the instant his eyes snap open.

All this Krucking, if you couldn’t tell, is about the Garbage Truck. This is the highlight of the week, this Garbage Truck action, and he remembers from week to week. Of course, he kind of “krucks” to himself all week long, so maybe I’m just thinking he knows it’s Wednesday, but whatever. He knows.

This morning he woke up very late — say, 7:45 a.m. — and was krucking in a panic. He could hear the Garbage Truck but — oh, ye fates! — he was not standing at his post! He could not see the truck with his own eyes! And cue the panicked yelling. So I hurried in, swooped him up and ran outside, fast as a cat, into the street so that he could at least watch the truck as it swayed and honked away down the block. You should have seen the light in his eyes then.

I’m hoping my weekly maternal sacrifice (“Where’s the damn truck? Should I make eye contact with the pickup guys? Oh shit, am I wearing pants?” etc.) has bought enough brownie points to earn my forgiveness for leaving this weekend.

A note of thanks

Before I head off to California, I want to thank everyone who donated to my trip fund and wrote encouraging things. You guys are the reason I get to go at all, and your stunning generosity and support still shocks me.

I’m not sure what to do but say thanks to all of you.

I’ve been blogging for going on four years, and it’s been an overwhelmingly awesome outlet. The friends I’ve met continue to raise my spirits and inspire me and get me to think about things, all the time. And some of you, the anonymous friends I haven’t met yet — you get me thinking, too.

So, thanks. A big, fat, blushingly awkward thanks to y’all. I’m still speechless. I will do my best to give you your money’s worth.

And then we well never talk about money again, because I’m very uncomfortable right now.

Flurries of activity

Today is my last day before I leave for Blogher.

And I just want to say this: People, it’s the Internet. Sure, the internet live and in person, but still.

So anyway. I’m backing up my hard drive (the important stuff, anyway) and downloading some podcasts and updating my iPod.

Then I have to get Owen dressed and drop off “Follow That Bird” at Blockbuster and pick up some new headphones and deodorant at Target and take Owen to Carole’s house and go to work and return some library books and come home and pack.

Then I have to wish my husband a happy 4th anniversary, since I am leaving him tomorrow on the actual date of said anniversary, and try to get some sleep before we head off to BWI in the a.m. Then I have to find something to do for 4 hours at my layover in ATL. Phew!

But then I will be in San Jose, meeting Jeffy at the airport before I meet Jess in person and head out for drinks with some news designer types.

I’m tired just thinking about it. (Ooh, someone remind me to get matches, too — the airport doesn’t allow lighters, the fuckers.)

Die hipsters



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Dudes, check it out: Heather made me a “Die Hipsters” pillow. Lookit how awesome!

She’ll make one for you, too, and put in her Etsy shop for easy sale. And check out the other stuff in her Etsy shop, too — she’s also selling crocheted jewelry which I’ve seen live and in person, and people? It is gorgeous.

Big thanks, Heather! Mwah! Mwah!

P.S. This whole thing sprang out of this post, in which I said this:

Thinking of getting DIE HIPSTERS tattooed on my forehead; it’s that kind of day.

And now I don’t need to get that tattoo after all. I can let my soft furnishings do the talking, instead.

Sartorial standoff

I am determined not to freak out about what I’m wearing to Blogher. (Except: Cocktail party? Does that mean “wear a dress”? I am fervently hoping the answer is “no.”)

I shall wear sensible shoes and jeans and my very best hand-adorned T-shirts. Erm, and maybe that Fred Flare skirt. And possibly I’ll bring my brown silk smock. But that is it.

If you see me plunking down my debit card for a new dress and knee-length shorts (or God forbid a bikini), I give you permission to smack me and wave around a print-out of this post.

Let me tell you about a boy named Owen

He’s the awesomest. Today he totally rocked out at Rock’n’Romp, arms in the air like he just did not give a damn, little booty waggling, the whole bit.

He’s got a new word every day. Today it was “lawnmower.” Recent vocab additions also include Ernie, Bert, swing, rain, and lion, and “Nay-Nay” for Aunt Katie. I think his first sentence is “What’s that?”. He’s just amazing.

It sucks that we’re at a definite high-intensity phase of separation anxiety, because July is apparently all about me being separated from him. It’s breaking my heart all the time. Just when I got him back from Nana’s house, I’m off to Cali for four days next week.

The potty-training I thought we’d slowly introduce is a laugh; he’s sat on his little potty maybe three times. This morning it had been in front of the A.C. vent in the bathroom, and he kept saying “Hot? Hot?” because any object which is not room-temperature is “hot” to him. It’s his way of saying “This object which I am touching, Mother, is registering different from the ambient Fahrenheit measure of the room, Mother, and I am not too happy about my naked butt touching it.” I gotta concede, though, that I wouldn’t want my naked butt touching that, either.

FIESTA!!

I have been listening to a lot of EL ZOL!! this weekend. It used to be WHFS, the alterna-rock station, and now it’s Latino music, and it shows up on my digital readout always as EL ZOL!! SIEMPRE EN FIESTA!!

So Katie and I have been spontaneously bursting out in mexican-themed exclamations. (Related thought: Where is the Mexican emo music?)

Today (hey, i’m changing the subject, pay attention) was Rock’n’Romp, down at the Austin Grill in Silver Spring. There are roughly 115 photos on my camera from this event. Oooh, and I got to meet Xiobhan and her adorable munchkin, Beck. You gotta love the internet: Recognizing total strangers from their Flickr photostreams. Surreal.

Also this evening was my haircut. I wasn’t going to cave to the prom-like pressure to primp for Blogher, but things came to a head, as it were, this afternoon. If I have to drag out my curling iron to make my hair behave, then I know that I am long, looong overdue for a haircut and anything else is just procrastination.

Reasonable procrastination, of course; I fucking hate getting my hair cut. And the one man who understood my special ed hair, the one the only Robby, has up and done left me in the dust. He apparently works in Arundel Mills now. I have to confess I don’t know where that is.

So I show up early to this hair appointment today, and the stylist was so late some other girl had to tend to me. I know Amalah will tell you that if you go to the mall for a haircut you will get a mall haircut. And she is right. And moreover, you will have to endure the worst imaginable levels of “customer service. ” My impromptu haircutting person was making disgusted faces, and when I called her on it, she confessed that she “forgot people can see [her] face.” Well, duh. You work in a room full of mirrors, darlin’. Then she forbid me to get bangs cut (admittedly, a wise admonition) and asked me how deep I want my angle. Since I am not trained as a hairstylist, she got my ful-on WTF face, because I haven’t the haziest clue what that means.

This haircut was the least FIESTA!! part of the whole day. The whole week, even. But at least now I have a semi-real haircut. I can’t glue back the bits she mistakenly chopped off (somebody was a bit too enthusiastic with the thinning shears) but i will at least be able to attend panels without wearing a baseball cap.

Top five ways to recognize me at BlogHer next week

I’ll be:

  1. the short girl wearing birkenstocks and a bewildered expression, smoking outside the Hyatt and wondering where to plug in my iBook
  2. the one pulling out photos of Owen from my wallet
  3. wearing this shirt that debbie made:
  4. standing next to Jess, who will be wearing a similar shirt
  5. the one with a beer in each hand, muttering self-affirmations sotto voce and bravely introducing myself to you

Gen X Jr?

Am reading Sex, Drugs and Cocoa Puffs. A few of the pieces were really interesting (particularly the hypothetical interlude* and the country-music piece**)***, though they are admittedly couched between some pretty annoying “Gen X” hipper-than-thou**** essays.

But he keeps harping on this Gen X thing, and very specifically mentioning the people born between 1965 and 1977. Since I was born in 1979, even reading this book and trying to understand his P.O.V. feels like being a younger sibling***** nodding and furrowing his or her brow and trying to appear knowledgable about the matter at hand when everybody knows they can’t possibly understand, they’re just too young.

* “Defying all expectation, a group of Scottish marine biologists capture a live Loch Ness Monster. In an almost unbelievable coincidence, a bear hunter in the Pacific Northwest shoots a Sasquatch in the thigh, thereby allowing zoologists to take the furry monster into captivity. These events happen on the same afternoon. That evening, the president announces he may have thyroid cancer and will undergo a biopsy later that week. You are the front page editor of The New York Times: What do you play as the biggest story?” Feel free to answer that in the comment section.

** Some very interesting things about alt-country and modern-country snobbery (of which I am, on a public level, very guilty) (and, to some extent, extremely not guilty)

*** Reading Chuck Klosterman directly after David Foster Wallace means I can’t stop adding footnotes, they’ve become lodged in my frontal lobe as an acceptable literary device.

**** Thinking of you and the DIE HIPSTERS pillow, Heather.

***** This in no way references any actual siblings I may have.

Failed experiment

Okay, you know what? I am never doing that again. I will take time without pay before letting my family up and leave me for 10 days or whatever it was.

They’re back, now, in case you didn’t catch that bit.

It was definitely tempered by Mandy staying for several fun-filled days; we stayed up entirely too late and ate lots of things with vegetables in and watched romantic comedies and talked like it was college again. So that part of it, getting to hang out full-strength with Mandy again, that part was worth it.

But the letting my baby and my husband go so very far from me for so long, and feeling so awful, that part wasn’t.

Iain and Owen and my sister Katie (she’s in town now, too, on a visit), they all got back Saturday evening. It was surreal. Iain was darkly tanned, with a full beard, and Owen looked about three years older than when last I saw him. He went to me right away, but even today I can tell he’s still got me on probation. If I mention any form of the verb “to go,” (even if it’s in conjunction with “to the bathroom”) his eyes well up and his brow furrows and my heart erupts into splinters. Bedtime last night took almost an hour and a half, which is an hour and fifteen minutes longer than usual.

Iain’s shaved off his mountain-man facial hair by now, but appears to have picked up some sort of Canadian virus. Since he got back, he’s slept more hours than he’s been awake. We’re planning to go out for quality spouse time Wednesday evening, but I fear he’ll still be dosed on Nyquil and shivering beneath the comforter. Eep.

Katie, as I mentioned, is here, and I wish I could just keep her here indefinitely. She helped me with a home haircut last night, and it looks remarkably nice and even. And she’s got an eerie sixth sense when it comes to taking care of Owen, knowing when to step in and just what to do. She’s a perfect houseguest. I’m glad she gets to stay for as long as she does, but I will certainly miss her when she’s gone.

Not much else is new. Engagement ring is back to its rightful position (wasn’t lost, just misplaced); floors are gleaming and finished being finished; and my house, which was clean for at least three or four days during their absence, is reverted to its natural, knee-deep-in-plastic-toys state of entropy. And if that’s the price for having a full house again, I’ll gladly pay it.