Comments on: Mamazine, Mamahood http://supamb.com/supafine/2006/03/15/mamazine-mamahood/ Mon, 01 Mar 2010 21:38:01 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Nicole http://supamb.com/supafine/2006/03/15/mamazine-mamahood/comment-page-1/#comment-2832 Nicole Mon, 03 Apr 2006 23:07:29 +0000 http://supamb.com/supafine/2006/03/15/mamazine-mamahood/#comment-2832 Hey there, I am also in this boat. I am 23 and have a 3 year old son, and a daughter that will be one this summer, I am also expecting our third child this fall. It seems like there is now one with 2-3 kids that is even in a 5-10 year range of my age. I am happy to see that there is someone else who has seen this age shift! My husband is only 26 and although he has a couple of his same-aged friends that maybe have a newborn, NO one my age has even one child. It makes it a little difficult to relate to other mothers sometime when your memories are my little ponys and theres were bell bottoms! Hey there, I am also in this boat. I am 23 and have a 3 year old son, and a daughter that will be one this summer, I am also expecting our third child this fall. It seems like there is now one with 2-3 kids that is even in a 5-10 year range of my age. I am happy to see that there is someone else who has seen this age shift! My husband is only 26 and although he has a couple of his same-aged friends that maybe have a newborn, NO one my age has even one child. It makes it a little difficult to relate to other mothers sometime when your memories are my little ponys and theres were bell bottoms!

]]> By: supamb http://supamb.com/supafine/2006/03/15/mamazine-mamahood/comment-page-1/#comment-2674 supamb Wed, 22 Mar 2006 03:30:04 +0000 http://supamb.com/supafine/2006/03/15/mamazine-mamahood/#comment-2674 Thank you, Annie. [sweet Kids Incorporated name drop!] Actually, thank you, everybody. So many good comments, good points. Me so overwhelmed, me not know what to say. As evidenced by the fact that it took me, like, a week to put any reply here. Thank you, Annie. [sweet Kids Incorporated name drop!]

Actually, thank you, everybody. So many good comments, good points. Me so overwhelmed, me not know what to say.

As evidenced by the fact that it took me, like, a week to put any reply here.

]]> By: Annie http://supamb.com/supafine/2006/03/15/mamazine-mamahood/comment-page-1/#comment-2643 Annie Sat, 18 Mar 2006 18:33:30 +0000 http://supamb.com/supafine/2006/03/15/mamazine-mamahood/#comment-2643 Okay, so this is what I have to remind myself of when I'm having the Mother of All Mother Freakouts: When we were one and two and five and ten, did our parents obsess about what kind of yogurt we got? Did your mom play with you every second of every day of your childhood? Or did she in fact let you watch the Kids Incorporated marathon at least 114 times because you had videotaped it (on your brand new technicredible VCR) and it kept you busy singing and dancing while she actually did her own thing? Two guesses which one my mama did, and I must say I've turned out quite well. I know what you mean, though. I have the same panic attacks about Norah, and whether she can eat tomatoes or if letting her sleep for three hours (when she's obviously tired) is just too long and she's going to wake up intellectually stunted. Maybe at 26 (me too!) we're afraid that we're too young to do this right. But there is no right, as far as I can tell - think of all the things our parents did that we weren't allowed to do, and they survived. And in most cases, they're even fairly high-functioning human beings. :) So! We worry too much and we're too young! But I'm pretty happy about the fact that when Norah grows up and realizes that her parents were sort of cool, I'll still be young enough to deserve the title. How cool will it be to party with Owen? What kind of adult will he get to be? And won't you love meeting him as a somewhat-younger peer? Bitchin', I tell ya. God, this is long. I should have just emailed. My bad for dominating your comment space. Okay, so this is what I have to remind myself of when I’m having the Mother of All Mother Freakouts:

When we were one and two and five and ten, did our parents obsess about what kind of yogurt we got? Did your mom play with you every second of every day of your childhood? Or did she in fact let you watch the Kids Incorporated marathon at least 114 times because you had videotaped it (on your brand new technicredible VCR) and it kept you busy singing and dancing while she actually did her own thing?

Two guesses which one my mama did, and I must say I’ve turned out quite well. I know what you mean, though. I have the same panic attacks about Norah, and whether she can eat tomatoes or if letting her sleep for three hours (when she’s obviously tired) is just too long and she’s going to wake up intellectually stunted. Maybe at 26 (me too!) we’re afraid that we’re too young to do this right. But there is no right, as far as I can tell - think of all the things our parents did that we weren’t allowed to do, and they survived. And in most cases, they’re even fairly high-functioning human beings. :)

So! We worry too much and we’re too young! But I’m pretty happy about the fact that when Norah grows up and realizes that her parents were sort of cool, I’ll still be young enough to deserve the title. How cool will it be to party with Owen? What kind of adult will he get to be? And won’t you love meeting him as a somewhat-younger peer? Bitchin’, I tell ya.

God, this is long. I should have just emailed. My bad for dominating your comment space.

]]> By: Jenn http://supamb.com/supafine/2006/03/15/mamazine-mamahood/comment-page-1/#comment-2636 Jenn Sat, 18 Mar 2006 00:32:49 +0000 http://supamb.com/supafine/2006/03/15/mamazine-mamahood/#comment-2636 Trust me you are not abusing your son....you want some horror stories to make you feel better you let me know:):):) Love ya and I wish you lived closer too Trust me you are not abusing your son….you want some horror stories to make you feel better you let me know:):):) Love ya and I wish you lived closer too

]]> By: vasilisa http://supamb.com/supafine/2006/03/15/mamazine-mamahood/comment-page-1/#comment-2628 vasilisa Fri, 17 Mar 2006 09:14:42 +0000 http://supamb.com/supafine/2006/03/15/mamazine-mamahood/#comment-2628 wow, more women under 30? man, finally. I'm actually feeling old now :-) Had a kid at 26, now 27 and plan on having more. None of my friends are even thinking it... And i'm never taking pregnancy classes again. Serioiusly, women in my class could've been my mothers (ok, i'm exaggerating, but only a little). I felt like a kid there. I don't get modern women... Don't they just want to have it all over and done with :-) ? Then you can have a nice retirement, when you are actually still young enough to ENJOY it! wow, more women under 30? man, finally. I’m actually feeling old now :-) Had a kid at 26, now 27 and plan on having more. None of my friends are even thinking it…

And i’m never taking pregnancy classes again. Serioiusly, women in my class could’ve been my mothers (ok, i’m exaggerating, but only a little). I felt like a kid there.

I don’t get modern women… Don’t they just want to have it all over and done with :-) ? Then you can have a nice retirement, when you are actually still young enough to ENJOY it!

]]> By: Ada http://supamb.com/supafine/2006/03/15/mamazine-mamahood/comment-page-1/#comment-2627 Ada Fri, 17 Mar 2006 05:38:38 +0000 http://supamb.com/supafine/2006/03/15/mamazine-mamahood/#comment-2627 I am not in my twenties any longer but I can still understand where you are coming from. My maternity group was strictly 35 and over. I was 30 when Franklin was born. I look 16 (or I did then). I wasn't taken seriously, I didn't relate to the money issues they ere having, and I wasn't trying to get pregnant as quick as possible because my clock was ticking. It's not that these issues aren't valid, they just weren't mine. In a rich city, many people wait to have their children. They buy the house, they establish their careers, they get their toys... and then they feel secure to have their children. I'm not completely solid on this, but life doesn't seem the same as when our parents were young and having children in their 20's - at least it doesn't seem that way here. Things aren't guaranteed to get better, you aren't guaranteed to get a raise along with inflation and your parents are not necessarily prepared to help you out if things get tough. As a result, in my cirlce, the people who have children Franklin's age are my professors, my boss and the guy who owns the squash clob - financially stablished people with morgages and stable somewhat more stable incomes. If I meet someone my age (or even younger), the pregnancy was not planned. In other cities, in other cirles, this may be different, but this is what I find here. Oh, and the anxierty? Lordy woman, I understand. I am crippled with the thought that I may totally fuck up his first memory. I am not in my twenties any longer but I can still understand where you are coming from. My maternity group was strictly 35 and over. I was 30 when Franklin was born. I look 16 (or I did then). I wasn’t taken seriously, I didn’t relate to the money issues they ere having, and I wasn’t trying to get pregnant as quick as possible because my clock was ticking. It’s not that these issues aren’t valid, they just weren’t mine. In a rich city, many people wait to have their children. They buy the house, they establish their careers, they get their toys… and then they feel secure to have their children. I’m not completely solid on this, but life doesn’t seem the same as when our parents were young and having children in their 20’s - at least it doesn’t seem that way here. Things aren’t guaranteed to get better, you aren’t guaranteed to get a raise along with inflation and your parents are not necessarily prepared to help you out if things get tough. As a result, in my cirlce, the people who have children Franklin’s age are my professors, my boss and the guy who owns the squash clob - financially stablished people with morgages and stable somewhat more stable incomes. If I meet someone my age (or even younger), the pregnancy was not planned. In other cities, in other cirles, this may be different, but this is what I find here.

Oh, and the anxierty? Lordy woman, I understand. I am crippled with the thought that I may totally fuck up his first memory.

]]> By: Sarcastic Journalist http://supamb.com/supafine/2006/03/15/mamazine-mamahood/comment-page-1/#comment-2626 Sarcastic Journalist Fri, 17 Mar 2006 03:47:58 +0000 http://supamb.com/supafine/2006/03/15/mamazine-mamahood/#comment-2626 First kid at 24, second at 26. Still 26. We're a dying breed, aren't we? First kid at 24, second at 26. Still 26. We’re a dying breed, aren’t we?

]]> By: brando http://supamb.com/supafine/2006/03/15/mamazine-mamahood/comment-page-1/#comment-2624 brando Fri, 17 Mar 2006 03:08:33 +0000 http://supamb.com/supafine/2006/03/15/mamazine-mamahood/#comment-2624 my wife and i got married when we were babies and had both our kids when we were still babies, and for the last 7 years it's kind of been like having 4 kids in the house, except two of them can legally drink. love'em and let'em live is pretty much how we we've run the home. they've both turned into two very cool, very happy little monsters. and my 7 year old has fallen out of more chairs, heard more foul language and watched me eat more cheeze doodles (okay, malt liquor), than should be humanly possible for a kid who still closes his eyes when people kiss on tv. i imagine you are an awesome parental guardian ;) my wife and i got married when we were babies and had both our kids when we were still babies, and for the last 7 years it’s kind of been like having 4 kids in the house, except two of them can legally drink. love’em and let’em live is pretty much how we we’ve run the home. they’ve both turned into two very cool, very happy little monsters. and my 7 year old has fallen out of more chairs, heard more foul language and watched me eat more cheeze doodles (okay, malt liquor), than should be humanly possible for a kid who still closes his eyes when people kiss on tv. i imagine you are an awesome parental guardian ;)

]]> By: Elizabeth http://supamb.com/supafine/2006/03/15/mamazine-mamahood/comment-page-1/#comment-2623 Elizabeth Fri, 17 Mar 2006 02:54:44 +0000 http://supamb.com/supafine/2006/03/15/mamazine-mamahood/#comment-2623 Moms in their twenties are hard to find. I have 2 and I'm 27. Only one of my friends from college has kids (3 now) and I haven't talked to her in a long time (she has her hands full). Another friend is having one soon and she's 29. But everyone is very different in how they parent (or will parent), I can tell that just from looking at myself and these 2 other women. I know people obsess, I do (lots), but I guess sometimes you have to step back and ask yourself : "am I doing the best I can do?" and go with that. Today, for example.. the kids had a lot of cereal (kashi, so it's pretty darn good for them), and sam played with coins and tubes from our laundry sorter while I sewed. It was snowing, and I'm tired, but I think I did ok today. I worry about it sometimes, but when I look back, it doesn't seem so bad. (But also, maybe it's because I don't have anyone else to compare to?) Moms in their twenties are hard to find. I have 2 and I’m 27. Only one of my friends from college has kids (3 now) and I haven’t talked to her in a long time (she has her hands full). Another friend is having one soon and she’s 29. But everyone is very different in how they parent (or will parent), I can tell that just from looking at myself and these 2 other women.
I know people obsess, I do (lots), but I guess sometimes you have to step back and ask yourself : “am I doing the best I can do?” and go with that.
Today, for example.. the kids had a lot of cereal (kashi, so it’s pretty darn good for them), and sam played with coins and tubes from our laundry sorter while I sewed. It was snowing, and I’m tired, but I think I did ok today. I worry about it sometimes, but when I look back, it doesn’t seem so bad.
(But also, maybe it’s because I don’t have anyone else to compare to?)

]]> By: VenturaMom http://supamb.com/supafine/2006/03/15/mamazine-mamahood/comment-page-1/#comment-2622 VenturaMom Thu, 16 Mar 2006 22:20:15 +0000 http://supamb.com/supafine/2006/03/15/mamazine-mamahood/#comment-2622 Dude, regarding canned vegis...my dd's only vegitable is canned carrotts. EVERY. DAY. Canned carrotts. Better than a bag of M&Ms, I guess. Dude, regarding canned vegis…my dd’s only vegitable is canned carrotts. EVERY. DAY. Canned carrotts. Better than a bag of M&Ms, I guess.

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